I'm 25 and my mom is in her late 40's, long since separated from my father. She was a really great mom who raised me well, however she had absolutely terrible spending habits and would buy a ton of stuff she didn't need (and which I didn't need too when I used to live with her), default massively on bills and credit card payments etc. There was no way to reason with her and she basically did what she wanted with her money, despite earning only about $50k annually. I still keep in touch with her despite having moved out at 21 but mom is also a very proud woman who never tells anyone anything about the state of her finances. She basically never wants or expects anything from me. I've graduated a couple of years ago and currently earn around 45k annually, living many states away from her in accommodation I'm not in a position to share and recently learned from a third-party that mom will lose the house due to mortgage defaults next week. I know her problems are hers alone to deal with and I have no obligation to help her out but she has nowhere to go (her family is basically non-existent), nowhere to turn to and now she doesn't have a roof over her head and food on her table. I feel really shitty and depressed for not helping her out with her debts and figuring out her problems before it was too late, even though she'd never let me out of her sense of pride. Did anyone else feel this way when leaving their family members to slowly self-destruct, however inevitable you knew it was?
Submitted December 21, 2018 at 07:17PM by TraditionalGuava3 http://bit.ly/2GvIDWi
