Something happens and you get angry. Let us give the whole thing a shape, a name, a face.
Let us say that a stranger comes to you and says that you are stupid. And he says this in front of many people. On the other hand, a friend on whom you rely, a friend whom you trust, he comes to you in front of twenty people and says you are stupid. And you have great trust on that friend, great belief in that friend. When would you be angry? When are you likely to be angry? When are you likely to feel hurt? When the friend says this or when the stranger?
When a friend says this. Isn't it?
The word of friend hurts because you have expectations from him.
See, had the reason of your anger been those words that you are stupid, had those words been the reason why you are angry, then you would have been equally angry at the friend and at the stranger as well. Right?
So, words are not the reason. The reason is expectations.
You do not get angry at anything other than your own expectations. When they are defeated, when they are frustrated, when your expectations are not fulfilled, that is the situation you call as ‘anger’. So, anger is the frustration of expectations.
So if a fellow has a lot of expectations, what will happen to him?
There will be chances of more and more anger.
Your expectation is nothing but a desire that the other person should behave according to your image of him. You have an image of your friend. And because of that image you believe that he will behave in a particular way. When his behaviour is not according to that image, then you feel angry.
Submitted September 22, 2018 at 06:34AM by acharya-prashant https://ift.tt/2NZQq1c
