Hello Everyone,
I am your typical early 30 year old spinster (Hah.) I am not actively dating anyone and I don't see any prospects on the horizon but of course these things can change in a heartbeat.
Female fertility rapidly declines at age 35. Apparently its pretty much a miracle if a natural birth occurs at 40 or above...although it occurs, it is certainly a risky move for a woman to assume she can have kids at that age. For me, that means (potentially) a pretty tight timeline: find boyfriend, date, get engaged, get married, settle in and try and get pregnant...and God help me if I want to have more than one kid.
I am feeling a lot of pressure and I know it will add unwanted pressure to my relationships. Egg freezing has become a recent suggested solution for women like me. It seems like a great way to ease my mind and allow me to (more easily) create my future family at 38-42ish with my future partner. However, I have run into the following concerns:
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Its expensive as hell. Some facilities offer bargains but the most reasonable price tag I can find is: $5000 or so for medication PER ROUND and I'm anticipating 2-3 rounds. $600 per year for egg storage and about $18,000 for total egg extraction and consultation fees. Then 10 years or so down the road ill dish out another $18000 for IVF (this is with a program that gives a financial guarantee for 30 frozen eggs for $18,000 and successful pregnancy financial guarantee for another $18,000)
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Its not a real guarantee. There are programs that offer packages that "guarantee" a baby or you get a reimbursement. But all this money that could have been invested now may still result in no successful pregnancy. I could also end up getting knocked up on my own at 39 with no hiccup. Its a crapshoot.
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I have 4 years or so to figure it out. To ensure greater success, they encourage women to freeze their eggs before 35 years old.
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I have a wonderful retirement package with my job. I live a frugal lifestyle and don't have problems paying my bills. I am debt free. But I currently have a relatively modest income so this fertility investment will replace me making any progress on making a down payment on a house. The sad fact is, the women who are at the optimal age for egg freezing are not at the best place in their career to pay for it.
My question is: Am a crazy for even considering this? Has anyone else pursued this option? Are there tips to cut costs?
Additional notes: I am open to adoption. I just stress about the uncertainty of that process. I have friends who have been on adoption waiting lists for years.
Also, this is a very intimidating thing to post on here- please be kind and don't judge me too harshly.
Submitted December 14, 2017 at 05:25PM by FruitTreesRule http://ift.tt/2j2DJl7
