My parents are very well off. $3M + family business, 3 buildings, a couple estate homes, stocks etc. My fiance worked for my dad for 3 years and had excelled in his position (moreso than my brothers) but we had a terrible falling out and we returned all handouts (help with apartment, car etc) and left completely to a new state. We have good jobs but with competition and living costs so high, we are just now making ends meet.
We are enjoying living a faster paced life in the city, and the freedom of not asking for vacation just to be rejected by parents who instead of giving free time forced their grown children to take vacations with them. And we are very career focused, unlike my sibling. They are happy to glide along, no goals etc. My parents manipulated, controlled and sometimes even pitted my siblings against each other for the desired outcome.
Most recently SO and I have each had a fair share of low blows by our employers. Scams, bounced checks, startup = no paid leave until 2 years later. I couldn't even take off 1 day for a family friend's funeral. Job hunting, moving, money troubles is slowly tearing down the ideal image I have of my life on my own.
This has got me thinking -although I am grateful for the chance to live out my dream- city living, being completely invulnerable from parents' schemes/antics, we are thinking about starting a family and I can't help but miss what I had before.
Have you or anyone you know given up freedom (low income, big/pricey city, no paid vacation/free time) - for a very comfortable, almost extravagant lifestyle (month long int'l travel, VIP stays, first class everything, shopping) given exclusively by controlling, manipulative, guilt-tripping parents? Are you glad you did it or do you regret? Even if you haven't what are your thoughts?
Submitted December 19, 2017 at 05:40PM by summer_summer00 http://ift.tt/2BLsjNz
