My dad has always leeched off of others. When my mom was alive, everything was under her name. She died 10 years ago, while we were moving into this house. After her death, the college money that my mom had set aside for my brother and I, disappeared. Money that we got from relatives throughout the years, we would unwillingly give to our dad. He would tell us we'd lose the house if we didn't. Before my brother left for Berkeley this past summer, my dad told us one of us had to give us $1.5k or we'd go into foreclosure. Throughout the decade, we'd 'loan' him a few hundred dollars here and there but never $1.5k. He has never paid us back once. But he keeps insisting "don't worry, in a month I'm going to have this super high paying job and I'll be able to pay you back and more. we're partners, you have to do this or you'll ruin my life." My brother actually caved in because my dad made him feel so guilty. He had to take out a loan to be able to give my dad the $1.5k because he feared for me what would happen if he didn't. I didn't know about this until weeks later. Now my brother's moved out and my dad is begging for $1.5k again. It's sickening how desperate he gets. It's sickening how he still makes up all these lies about "having a ton of money in a month with this great commission job!!" He's always believed in that whole "Get rich quick" thing because he is too lazy to get a real job. I don't want to be stuck here in this same position, living for him. I feel I was born to be his piggy bank or something. I am really worried about my future. I have the option of moving out but even sharing a room in a relatively cheap area, would cause me to work close to full time if not full time. I'm attending the local community college and I have two years left at least. I really need to be able to focus on my academics and working so many hours could be too much pressure. I need A's to get into a nursing program. I told my dad today, "I don't care if this house goes into foreclosure" and he said, "I could become homeless because of you. We can't sell this house because of the condition its in." When he was drunk, he fell a few times and there are now two holes in the wall and the stair railing is broken. He drinks a lot.
All I want is to be able to focus on school. I hate to say it but even though I am grown up, I still don't think I can do this by myself unless I make work my priority and really extend my stay at a community college. I feel ashamed to ask for help but I don't see myself doing well if these are my options.
I have an uncle in Boston. He's the only person I can (maybe) turn to..Except we're not that close. We've seen each other only a handful of times in my life. But he has always sent my brother and I money for Christmas and our birthdays. A few months ago he sent us $1.5k each because he wanted to "invest in our futures." He's done so much for us. He thinks my dad is happily retired and that everything is okay. But after today, I am considering sending him an email and telling him about the situation I'm in. Because I really don't know what to do. I have no guidance here and I don't want to make a stupid decision and potentially ruin my future. Ideally, if I could go and live with him while contributing to rent or chores, all while being able to focus on school, that would be so great. But I have low expectations for that happening. He's already done so much for us. Do you think I should email him and tell him about everything? Do you think I should continue giving my dad money..? Because what if that would be less expensive than moving out? What would you do? Thank you. I am lost and scared.
Submitted October 02, 2017 at 08:23PM by mslaurynhill http://ift.tt/2g6iayZ
