So a bit of a background. Ive known this guy since childhood. Hes been my best friend through and through. Hes now in his upper twenties though Id say his mental state is that of a preteen. Hes a little socially inept, has a hard time looking anyone in the eye but is the nicest person youd ever meet. He never tells a lie and has a bit of a forest gump attitude when it comes to work, if you tell him to do something hell do it no questions asked Although its never been diagnosed I imagine he has some kind of Autism or aspergers Growing up his mom was very controlling. She would call him on his phone every 30 minutes to ask what he was doing or to get an update, she still does this today. She is also a very lazy hermit of a woman. Their house was always a huge mess, it was like something out of those extreme hoarder shows. Now he's 29 and he's been begging me to help him get out. However there are many obstacles in our way.
- Any time he threatens to move out she threatens to kill his dog. His dog is very precious to him and she's been known to let him out if he doesn't come home when she wants to.
- They've had a joint bank account. She convinced him that they had to get a joint bank account and whenever he wanted out she would inform him that he owed money to the bank and couldn't get his own bank account. I have recently helped him get a new bank account for his job to direct deposit in but I fear that thy're bills are connected to the other bank account and that going to cause some problems real soon. As of posting this she's yet to know about the second bank account.
- She takes almost ALL his money. He works a fifty hour job making 13 dollars an hour but until just yesterday he's been under the assumption that he only makes 1200 a month. That doesn't include the 800 she takes away from that for "bills". She led him to believe this by saying taxes take away half of his paycheck. So even if he wanted to move out he barely has a cent to his name. Hopefully this will change real soon with his new bank account.
- She has multible credit cards under his name. He says at least three and he doesn't know how much is on them. This is my main concern because I have no clue what to do about this. there could be more cards than that and who knows how much debt she has put him in. Anything he asks her she could just fabricate some lie and he'd probably believe her. He's sorta let that situation go because when he confronted her about it she said "sorry I wont spend as much" and that's that.
- She just bought a new car under his name.
- If all of this gets taken care of she and he does move out she could probably end up being homeless and he does worry about that.
My main concern is all the credit cards and the amount of dept she could be putting him in. What should I do? Is there any kind of organization that helps people getting abused by their parents like this, especially for someone in his mental state? He doesn't know about any of these financial consequences and just go's through life working and doing whatever his mom tells him to do. I'm afraid she will die one day and he will be the one living in the streets.
TLDR: Friend with mental disability has mom who abuses him, takes all his money and racks up debt in his name. What can I do to help? Thank you guys very much in advance.
Submitted August 27, 2017 at 10:26PM by majorasword http://ift.tt/2xpwLN8
