Note: I originally posted this under my main account. My mistake. If you were writing a response while I deleted the original post, I apologize.
I recently read the post by the 16-year-old who is looking for advice on how he should go about attaining help for his sixty-something father. I’m in a similar situation, but with some distinct and important differences.
To begin, my father is in his mid to late fifties and is currently living in Virginia. I’m currently living in another state in the midwest (as my parents are divorced), so I can’t be there to help him.
I do not know where my father is currently living. In the past, he’s lived in a beach house near Virginia Beach, but he’s also lived in a storage unit at certain points in his life when his business and personal life were falling apart. I was visiting him a number of years ago at the age of 15 and he always had clothes hanging up in his car drying, so I’m not sure if he genuinely needed to air-dry these clothes or if they were his only clothes. I didn’t come to his home, as I was staying with a friend, but he did offer.
My father runs a small business in Virginia and he manages to create enough of an income for him to survive and send his family (including my mother) small amounts of money when he can. He’s a genuinely caring person, but he does not know how to put himself into a stable situation with a stable income. I worry that my father won’t be able to retire properly and he’ll become homeless once his business goes under. The main thing keeping him in Virginia is his business, other than that, he’d be able to leave by now and live with his sister and her husband in Colorado.
I simply want my father to be able to survive and live with the ones he loves. It hurts me greatly to see my father go through this. He has no one right now.
I don’t believe that my father will be able to receive much government assistance, as my mother tells me that he likely hasn’t paid his taxes in a long time. I hope that it's also worth noting that my childhood therapist says my father likely has Asperger's. However, I highly doubt he would willingly be diagnosed.
What can I possibly do to help my father? I worry for him and it’s haunted me on multiple occasions. I don't want my father to become homeless and die alone. I care about him greatly. Any help would be amazing!
Thank you!
Submitted April 27, 2017 at 11:31AM by mechanized-robot http://ift.tt/2pD9ypO
